Tuesday, October 15, 2019

About Me

October 15, 2019 0 Comments
Hello Friends!

 I am Madhurima. I am a mom of 4 and a half year old, an IT professional, an introvert by nature and a thinker! 
I know Bengali, Hindi and English language. I am planning to learn Mandarin.My hobbies include watching movies, listening music, singing and reading. I have recently started learning Taekwondo and liking it. I can't swim but I think that's a great skill to have so that's on my to-do list as well! I am quite lazy and am not interested in exercise/work out.

My daughter is my lifeline and my brother is my best friend.

 The purpose of this blog is to share my journey and thoughts on what we call "Life".  I will share my experiences and learnings and I hope this will help you in some way or at least bring a smile on your face 😊😊

 Let me introduce you to my family....
This is us :)

My Daddy, Brother and Mommy. (recently lost my dad)


My InLaws and Family (Diwali Celebration)
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Friday, October 11, 2019

Women ..enemy or biggest support?

October 11, 2019 2 Comments

Few months back, me and my friends from office went for a stroll after finishing lunch. I don't remember the exact context but a friend (male) made a statement "aurat hi aurat ki dushman hoti hai" (women are women's worst enemy) ...   

Well did i agree to his statement? Hell no! I have been fortunate to have amazing females in my life. But could I disagree completely - No, because there was some truth to it. 

When I was studying BCA, we were a group of 5 girls who used to hang out together. We have laughed, fought and cried together. We were there for each other always! Our convocation was held at BIT Mesra, Ranchi (which was in a different state than my home town). Unfortunately, none of my friends could make it to the event. 

Apart from me, there were only two girls (besties) from my batch who joined the convocation. Ranchi was the hometown for one of them so their plan was to spend time with family for 2 days after the graduation ceremony. Once they got to know I had no plans but to stay at the place until we depart, they were worried. They didn't want me to stay alone and convinced me to join them. I was so grateful to them and I had the most amazing time. Now, when I look back, was there a need for them ask me to join? No! They are just two amazing ladies. (sorry, don't have pics together)

My first job was at Satyam, Hyderabad (first time staying away from family). After about a few months, I moved to Pune for a project. I am not a morning person and my roomie used to wake me up each morning! I didn't know how to cook, she did the cooking and I did the dishes. I don't know if we had any fights, I have no memory of that! What i know is, she didn't taunt me for the things I didn't do, me neither.


During my DuPont tenure, once I had a little argument with my Lead
(sometimes your mind is just blocked with emotions!). Our conversation was heard by few others in our bay. After some time, someone approached me from my bay and helped me understand that my Lead cared for me and what she was saying would be for my own benefit. That someone was a female. I got her point but what amazed me was how she made the effort to make things right between us. Something to learn from?

In workplace, we have all sort of issues, right? I had this big fight with my manager and I was not talking to him (I think I am too emotional at times!!). We didn't speak for a month. He came to me thrice and asked to have a
conversation and discuss what is on my mind. I didn't, I was angry! One day my Lead came to me and said that my manager thinks highly of me, he is elder to me and came thrice and asked to have a conversation. She convinced me that i should respect his initiative and have a discussion. She was right. I did that and it was all good again. The thing to mention here is, she might have her own issues with him but didn't trigger me to do anything worse, she was so mature to give me an impartial opinion! 

I have several such incidents where a female went out of her way to guide me or help me. 

Then why this stereotyping that women are women's worst enemy? Because there is a female envy that exists? I never understood this. Don't get me wrong, i totally get it if two girls like the same boy and jealous of each other! What i don't get is, this feeling of, “if I didn't get this why she?” 


I had found one of my besties at workplace. We both were in the same role and after some time my lead wanted to give a DEV lead role to her. I was asked by several people why not you? I responded, she is more mature than me to handle that role. I was just stating facts. The question was valid but they just couldn't digest my response and kept triggering me. May be so used to seeing and enjoying female envy? I gave them a hard time i think!! 

When I got married, there were some jokes around let's see who can do this better (between me & my sis-in-law). I just smiled, I was newly married and was still trying to understand everyone but in my head i was saying "Why us? Why the two sons are not competing or compared?  Have fun out of them, not us!". I know I know, it was a joke but our jokes do tell a lot about what we think correct?  

 And sis-in-law comparison is like universal. In most cases, they are just put in to a situation where envy would play a role. All mind games, which are uncalled for! 

Well my thought... envy is absurd, stupid, illogical! I feel there is plenty for all of us. You get an opportunity, good for you, if i want the same thing, i will work for it as well. 

My masi (aunt) told me once, when i was little "Amaar baje bhable ba bol le ota to pe jabo na, amake aamaar ta banate hobe" (Even if i think or speak bad for the other person, i will not get what he or she has, i will have to work for my own life). 

With that thought, let's keep supporting each other to grow....

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